November 27, 2009
Hit and Run Thanksgiving
It happens every holiday: Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter. . .
My Mom or I slave in the kitchen and then people arrive, usually late. They grab a plate, eat, and within two hours tops, they are gone. The majority of the clean-up is left behind. My sister and her boyfriend have to hit both families and my sister's boyfriend was also on call and forgot his digital password thing at home. They were there for an hour. My grandparents never make it to dessert. My Pop-Pop doesn't like to drive in the dark and he doesn't like to go to the bathroom at other people's houses. Sometimes, if they come to my kids' birthday parties, they ask me for a piece of cake before the girls even blow out the candles. I started making cupcakes for that very reason.
Yesterday was absolute insanity. Dinner was supposed to be at 2 p.m. Because Mr. BBM and I were, once again, in IKEA-putting-something-together-yet-again hell, we didn't arrive until 1:30. We thought we would be last but we were first. Next, my grandparents arrived. An hour later, my sister and her boyfriend walked in.
My sister started making some brown butter sage sauce for lobster ravioli she brought and splattered stuff all over my Mom's stove. My Mom is like a absolute perfectionist when it comes to her stove. When I lived there, she didn't even want me to clean it. It is probably the cleanest surface in the entire house. I could tell she was stressed.
Then my sister's boyfriend started making horrible noises. Apparently he has serious sinus congestion and I'm not quite sure he knows how to blow his nose. I volunteered to sit in the kitchen with the girls to eat. I didn't think my stomach could take listening to someone snort and eat their own mucus. Little did I know that he would come running out to the bathroom, right off the kitchen, only to make horrible barfing noises in there. My Mom and I just looked at each other with horror. She was also at the kids table. I asked her to please pass the wine. We both refilled our glasses.
By 4 p.m. my Mom was cutting desserts "to go" for people and they were out the door; my sister forgot her cake on the table so Lil C ate it.
I helped my Mom clean up the plates and the kitchen. She still hadn't even eaten her salad.
I think that when I host Christmas this year, I'm going to tell people to come in the morning and refuse to feed them until 7 p.m. Christmas is even worse. It's like a tornado hit my family room with gift wrap and ribbon everywhere. It's exhausting.
So last night, we stayed at my Mom's house until almost midnight. We played games, picked on my Dad, as is the status quo at any holiday, and we ended up having a great time despite the flurry that was from 2-4 p.m.
When I was a little girl, the actual holiday days seemed to go so slowly. I have such good memories of them. I hope that when my girls grow up, they don't remember the holidays as the hit and run they have become.
Sorry about the hit and run part of your holiday. It’s certainly not like that at my in-laws-imagine a giant, chaotic party that no one leaves. It’s a total blast, if you don’t mind the chaos-which I don’t. Now, if my family could just feel better before we fly out on Monday to Disney, that would be helpful! 🙂
Things start to get complicated. My #1 son and his girl friend generally hit three dinners somehow and eating and running is the norm. Nowadays with step-families it is even worse.
Ours was simple as we are getting over the flu, we did not want to infect anyone so it was just my wife and I. We called everyone. It would have been nice to see them, even if briefly though.
Ugh, sorry. That kinda sucks. I’m sure what the kids will remember, though, is that everyone made the effort to be there, and that you and your family stayed late and had fun. Sometimes that’s the best, when most of the folks have gone and you can just relax.
I do love that you have wine at the kids table. 😉
You know, I have cooked and cleaned up many a Thanksgiving. And you’re right! The hit and run shit sucks!! This year, we were invited to our favorite restaurant by our friend/owner of the place. It was so awesome. I got to sit down the whole time, and chat with the kids, guests, etc…and helped to clean up, gladly. Then we danced, men had cigars and the kids were playing games. It was much better than last year’s wam-bam affair.
Yeah, hold ’em hostage. That’ll teach ’em.
I suppose that’s one advantage to having family live halfway across the country. When they come for Thanksgiving they stay for several days, or it’s not worth it.
We had a hit-and-run Thanksgiving this year with my wife’s extended family and while it wasn’t stressful and went off fine, including a traditional family game of Trivial Pursuit, it left me missing my typical foraging over the leftovers for hours after the main meal. I prefer a multi-day Thanksgiving event.
Me too! Its just not a party if you dont even have time to dig into leftovers!